I was watching television around noon today. I had read article after article about weight loss, health, fitness and exercise fads, trends and the like. I took a break from it and turned my TV on to my trusted E! Channel. I absolutely love that channel and always know that there is something on for me to waste my time with on it, today I stumbled across the new reality competitive show entitled "Bridalplasty".
Initially while I was watching this I thought wow are you serious, what a stupid show, but then I thought a little deeper. Do people really believe that the only way to have a perfect anything is to look perfect? Most of the time you hear about women who are upset about the way they look and how their weight problem or other imperfection is keeping them from meeting that special someone somewhere, but in this case these women have in fact already met that special someone. This made me realize that this need to look a certain waiy doesn't ever end. Whether one is single or with a significant other, this thought process never changes. There is a lot more to this show that meets the eye and it says a whole lot more about our society than one may think.
The idea of plastic surgery is one that intrests me immensely. I have thought about how much easier it would be to just go to a doctor throw down some benjamins, get some kind of miraculous surgery and walk out with a smaller booty. I won't lie this has crossed my mind, but then I think how much more mad would I be if I spent thousands and thousands of dollars on a procedure, but didn't fix the foundation. I would be at a financial loss and could wind up looking just like I did pre surgery. This is not something that I personally would be willing to chance.
Another thing about this show. I don't know how many people have been through any kind of surgery, but it is zero fun, I promise. Anything where you have to go completely under and get cut means you have a long recovery period and it really sucks. I have had six surgeries in the last five years (none of which have been cosmetic) and ever one sucks more than the one before it. I always make jokes that I wish I could have spent the money I spent on surgeries on a surgery that I wanted or that I wish I had a doctor that looked like Mark Sloan (played by actor Eric Dane) from Grey's Anatomy because that would almost make the outpatient procedure's bearable.
I make jokes about wanting plastic surgery, but in actuality when it came right down to it I don't know that I could go through with it. I do think that in certain instances one should get a procedure done, but I think it is easy to lose sight of what is important and that is that each person was created as an individual. Individuality and uniqueness is one of the things that makes someone beautiful. I understand not liking something about yourself, but if that's the case do everything you can to change it and if you still aren't satisfied I feel like as a last result you should consider surgery.
One girl on the show that placed in the bottom three and was one of the women facing elimination was a blonde woman with the most negative attitude ever. Sure she had a sob story, she and her groom-to-be had both been laid off and there were other bad things going on in her life, but she chose to stay in this Negative Nancy, Debbie Downer state of mind. This woman ended up staying, but only because it is a competition show and the other contestants saw her as less of a threat. However every woman who voted to let her stay reminded her that she needed to become less negative because she wasn't hurting anyone but herself for continuing to stay in that sad little mindset.
I know that I go on and on about being positive, but I really think that a positive mindset is going to be more beneficial than a negative one. People who are negative end up pushing other people away and that kind of attitude causes people to not like or misunderstand the individual. This can lead to other problems, but a positive person will be more successful. The need to believe in yourself is the first step if not the biggest step in changing something about yourself that you don't like. I'll use myself as an example.
Use to I was so consumed with how much I disliked the way that I looked that I started to dislike myself, forgetting that I had other positive attributes. I leaned on the fact that I was intelligent and made myself believe that my brains were all that I had to offer because for some reason I had it in my mind that people were either beauty or brains and I definitely didn't see that I had any beauty so I concentrated solely on the brain part. I'm sure that my lack in confidence held me back from opportunities that I may have been the best suited canidate for, but confidence just may be that selling point.
Today I by no means think that I am the most beautiful person in the world and there are certainly days that I revert back to that same mindset that I use to have because my butt doesn't fit into a size 2 pair of jeans, but I do realize now that I have a lot to offer. I also realize that if I am able to be successful in other aspects of my life, overcoming this one obsticle (my weight) is an obtainable goal too. I want to encourage anyone else who may read today's post to realize that you are a beautiful individual and that you have a lot to offer and no matter what goal it is in your life you are trying to achieve (whether it be a better body or abetter job), whatever it may be you have the power to make it. If you have any suggestions for me please feel free to pass them my way. I always love to hear what anyone else can bring to the table.